My husband is not my best friend reddit Father of my children? My husband is absolutely not my best friend and I’m not his. My husband is 100% my partner and the love of my life and I can’t imagine doing However, like you, other couples feel strongly that their partner is not their best friend. His best friend Tim just proposed to his girlfriend, and I’m really excited for them, but I’m not excited about my husband’s ex Jenna. He ask to take me to dinner. We both have two daughters the same age, and we are the same age, so we instantly became friends and would hangout One was my ex-husband's best friend who was going thru his own divorce at the time of our affair. My partner and my best friend have very different functions in my life. 55 years old. We've been with each other since 3rd grade, and we've come to know each other very well, obviously. I (21F) was very very eager to introduce my best friend (21F) to my boyfriend (21M). My husband and my best friend. She's a snake in the grass. For the first time since this has all happened, I really don't care if her and my now ex-husband get together. The girl getting married does not like my husband but he is on the same shift and the whole shift was invited to the wedding. Back in November me and my best friend had a falling out behind some drama with my sister (no one was necessarily wrong in the situation, it was more so that hurtful things were said during the situation), in hindsight I should’ve never let my sister and friend become close knowing that my sister is mentally unstable. That being said, we can and do talk about anything and everything and have many things in common. But I decided to respect my husband's wishes this time. It sent me into shock and depression. Married roughly 8 years. Do you think if he could sexually satisfy you, you wouldnt be feeling his way? Right?! My best friend and I (male and female respectively) have been friends for around 20 years now. I need them both, I love them both, but while I love them both I would not act best friend with my partner and I wouldn't marry my best friend and I am 100% sure he feels the same. I will say that my husband is not my best friend. However, she insisted she wants to I dont know where to begin. We are from the same high school. However, she comes home with my husband and says she is staying over. She was my bridesmaid, her husband was a groomsman, and their kids were our ring bearer and flower girl. I don't know how to compare it to my best friends in my past. (my husband was very hurt by this ) he never kept a job when they were roommates, my husband paid all the bills. This is the worst part of breakups. My husbands friend (and my friend too I thought) stuck by me after we broke up and helped me out. It just sucks and its really hard to walk away from someone I love more than anything. My husband and I have been very happily married for 10 years. Best love? Yes. I don’t know. I'm writing this post to share the heartbreaking and devastating news that my husband of 26 years is cheating on me with my best friend. I love my husband, but he's always so fucking cranky. He is my best friend in the whole world. My husband’s best friend (and best man at our wedding) is not a good person and is overly obsessed with my husband. I have male friends. The ex is 23. I know if its real love then I will do whats best for him which is for me to not be in his life. He has been my best friend ever since my relationship with him became serious. I was her only friend. The girl was my best best friend & my everything for years. My husband on the other hand does not have any real friends. The other a good friend that would've killed my ex-husband if he'd been around, when I told him what he did to me. I begged him to rather break up with me first. And my best friend knew about this. He has been there for me holding my hand and helping me through this. My advise: break up. Yes, he is my friend but our connection is deeper than that. Satirizing of posts should stay within this sub, which means that participating directly in linked posts should either be done in good faith or not at all. The thing is that he had done this once before and I forgave him, telling him that if he were to ever do it again, I would not handle it. Our relationship is very emotionally close and we share things with each other that we never have shared with previous partners. We were long distance friends for a long time after, so she’s only recently gotten to meet my husband. I know I need to let him go for both us to be okay and be happy. But he is not my best friend because I don’t want him to have to pretend to be happy for me about something that could negatively affect him. My husband has always made friends more easily with women than with other men and I genuinely don't have an issue with that. My husband has a tight-knit group of friends from college. My wife is my best friend, so I spend my time talking to her. Most recently he kicked my coworker and their kids out of the house in the middle of the night so that he could move his NEW girlfriend and her kids into the house. I have not responded and I feel so humiliated to even face anyone. I am ashamed of how insecure I have become as a result of her presence overshadowing my marriage. I am guilty of thinking that my best friend and my husband would never betray me like this but unfortunately I am wrong. I text him often. I am not The OOP, OOP is u/throwraCable_7304. She lied and betrayed me worse than any man could have. I talk to him about everything and he knows me better than anyone else. (on my phone, sorry if there's any formatting issues) I (F) slept with my best friend (M) today and I'm a mess of emotions. they have been buds since the 7th grade but as an adult his friend has completely used my husband. My kids were outside playing with now ex-bffs older brother. Karla's dad apologized and she heads back home. I am a very friendly outgoing creature, but don't seem to need a bestie at all times. My husband gave the go ahead. We were criminals pretty much. This is excellent advice and I agree wholeheartedly. She is not your friend. My husband (28m) cheated on me (25f) with my best friend (25f). Hell, I hang with my female best friends husband. My husband keeps trying. Yesterday, my best friend of forever, came to my house to tearfully confess she had been having an affair with my husband. He sends flowers and he constantly wants to talk and see me. Ex Besties Ex GF (my ex friend) has been blocked on everything from the first moment I found out. I have very difficult family relationships and while I moved away and try my best not to let it get to me, every once in a while I completely unravel when they trigger me. I just hate seeing him pop up on messages to him and hearing them on the phone. tl;dr: I found out my best friend has feelings for my husband and she confessed. I’ve been friends with my best friend (both f24) since high school. She was in my house the same day I was removed, she was sleeping in my bed with my husband. Man when the ex goes after the best friend it's a different kind of hurt. They eventually stopped being friends of their own accord. Back to my story. Steve was always a little immature and clingy but being in college so was I so it wasn’t a big deal. That he wanted to break up. We hung out together as families and our kids played together. Him being able to so easily lie about it to my face like the manwhore he clearly is, is just an added "fuck you" from him. Excuse me, but if my husband is ever not in a positive emotional state, it’s my job as his wife and his best friend to talk it through, and act upon it. Everyone was telling me that my husband and my best friend were having an affair. We’re the best of friends, we get along incredibly well. My husband was my best friend in the entire world before we started dating, just because he’s not my husband doesn’t mean he’s still not that best friend. Begging me to forgive him, I told him I would forgive him. My husband has his own best friend. I noticed he’d avoid her when she came over. They deserve each other. Anyway, can people share their happy marriages where your partner is your best friend? My partner is amazing. I hear it all the time. He also liked me since high school. My best friend Alice (38F) and her husband Ken (44M). That's a completely separate situation and not at all While a stream of comments have called me spineless and naive, called me a “sister wife” (as an ex Mormon, that hits a particular nerve) and most recently, a stream of Elli Purtell boldly argues “no way” as she proclaims to the world “my husband isn’t my best friend. She is a problematic girl whose dad left when she was 2, gets into bar fights, dates people in prison, etc. I’m still upset that I never told him. They worked together. His friend is just awful. He occasionally dates, but for the most part is focused on his work and hobbies and friends. No good can ever Ive been hearing a lot of people say not to marry your best friend for exactly this reason because it ends up feeling like your just with your best friend. They have a 4 years old son who calls me uncle and I adore, She told me today that she is pregnant again, and told me that she was letting me know before her husband because I was her best friend, it broke my fcking heart because I’m being an asshole to her by doing this behind her back, She told me to have lunch together but I declined cuz I We had dinner, had a couple drinks, and were hanging out deciding what store to go to when his best friend called. Throughout this whole ordeal my best friend stuck by my side to encourage me when she seen me get weary. My husband said she could sleep on the couch. my supposed best friend as well. the truth is the Me (40F) My husband (37M) married 10 years. He just told me today but it happened about a month ago. And today, after a decade of marriage, I still don't consider him my best friend. There were things I observed in their relationship that showed me I was clearly not compatible with him. But I knew I had to tell him, I couldn’t look him in the face any longer. Update: Yowza! Thank you everyone for your kind words and your jokes! It certainly helped calm down my spiraling brain. Expecting our first child in June. I was sad because while I didn't like the guy (for very good reasons) my partner had also been friends with him for a decade and he was the person who introduced us to each other. When I went with her I never brought him along and they never interacted and that was fine. I’m a lot more outgoing than my partner is, so I’ve built a network of friends here, but even before we were married it’s been a challenge to get my husband to put any real effort into making friends with my friend group. I sat on this for months, because I knew this would be the outcome. Which we know to be the case as she admitted it in the post. It was incredibly hard for me, especially because I couldn't tell JJ (30F). I really miss my friend. A short while before that my best friend found out that her husband cheated and he left her for his mistress. If your partner cheats on you with your best friend then neither of them are respecting their relationship with you. It's hard, but DH took her place as the number 1 person in my life. Yes, there is some overlap in interests and hobbies. You might not like it, and you can certainly cut off communication with your ex and former best friend (that you rarely talk to I had asked who is this and it was my ex husband. My partner had a friend for a year that I hated and I never got in the way. I see he is trying so hard. I think my friend and her husband dislike him for three reasons: 1. My kids are still loved, cared for, played with, and I haven’t let my load slack around the My best friend "Marc" (23m) and me (22f) are friends since we're 15. Saying “behave, my husband is your best friend” isn’t saying she doesn’t like it. After my husband dipped his dick in my "best friend", I'll never be able to trust him again. So my (37F) best friend of 15 years (34F) and my husband of 8 years (33M) have been having a secret friendship. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 12 years old. She only got close I’m a wife. . If something has gone overboard or inappropriate then obviously it’s not friendship. He’s an amazing father, everyone adores him, he gets along GREAT in my family. If you brigade/encourage brigading of any kind, you will be banned from participating in either sub. This is not a happy update. I just handed them the screenshots, saving them from the unsavory pictures and sex tape though I did tell them it existed. Want some freed, live, discussion that neither AITA nor Reddit itself can censor? My husband is different from my best friend. He says he’s been working late hours at the office to try and help with lack of staff which was half true, but he was working 10-12 hour days to be able to take days off to hang out with his “friend”, a 27 year old female who had no idea that I had no Just a question if the husband really loved op then why even ask and not put distance between him and the best friend or why didn’t he talk to op about his attraction towards the best friend ?Also if the best friend was really op’s best friend then she would have know that she wouldn’t be ok with it and it would change their relationship? . It helps heal, very much. Looking back, now that I’m with a man who actually treats me well, it’s easy to see the emotional manipulation and abuse I received from both my husband and my best friend. A marriage isn't a friendship. I had a sinking feeling because I have seen the way my best friend has looked at my husband for years. Lifelong friends are so rare and I’ve lost I found out that my husband was cheating on me with his best friends girlfriend, and her and I were friends. My ex and my best friend of 15 years were cheating together. 4 months ago my husband told me he did not love me. ” After a day of seeing a particularly maddening number of Facebook statuses proclaiming how We were not friends first. Then I I hate my husbands best friend, and it’s making me hate my husband. You don't get to have a say in who your ex sees, and you definitely don't have a say in who your former best friend from HS sees. My partner is my soulmate. My husband told her he didn't feel the same way and would never do anything to hurt me, but he still continues to talk to her and is still willing to be her friend. We’ve been married for 3 years and have a child together. I also regretted not telling one of my friends that I love him and he died. In fact, it’s more than ok. My husband’s friend has always been an issue in our relationship and she went too far this weekend. He’s a part of my life lol. I can deal with being single, not getting laid, eating dinner alone, etc. My best friend is my little sister and always will be. Being very open about random things. I saw that example from my But, when people ask who my best friend is, I say my actual best friend. She's cheated on him several times. My situation is a little different than yours because by the time they were serious, I was completely over him. My husband and I have been together for eight years, married for one and a half. I called my friend, she confirmed, and I spent the next few days in complete shock. I am 100% dating my best friend. I’m not in love with my husband anymore. I had this with quite a few things and despite getting good grades in school, my life skills were lacking. The friend regularly dates women 6-8 years younger and is literally a horrible influence on my husband’s behavior. So the other night, my husband and I were talking about things from the past. Everything annoys him. In covid, our job was in person vs. Red Flag #1. Cyan is a very kind person. After catching my husband and my best friend in bed. My husband's Best Friend is over about once-twice per week to hang out, join us for dinner, help DH with random projects around the house. This will be constant pain for you until you do. One time he woke me in the middle of the night to tell me he was going to drive several hours to pick her up from the middle of nowhere because her asshole husband left her stranded, and I was mumbled something about that being fine and went back to sleep. My 26f husband 28m slapped my best friend 31f for staring at my breasts. You are strong. My husband has a friend who he has known from years since high school she doesn’t like me I can see it and my friends can see and she has made remarks that hint to it, she constantly tries to assert dominance over me for instance she like to make remarks hinting that she’s is more important me my husband has lied about going to see her for example saying he’s going to My husband is hard working, dedicated, passionate about his hobbies and the people he cares about, he is kind, gentle, funny, and just an overall beautiful person. We quickly became best friends, closer than brothers. They became friends when my husband first moved to America in 2014. My best friend (let's call him Joe), whom I have known since we were in diapers told us he was getting married this summer. Apparently, my wife had a huge crush on my best friend since junior high. I was just grateful to he's better. But hes not only my best friend hes my lover, my support system, my home. Ex boyfriends who clearly weren't right for me, well, they weren't my best friends because I did not trust them the way I trust my husband. I’m the same way as a husband. My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and engaged for two weeks. This might - in my case - be a question of philosophy coming to relationships. They never communicated. He left me. We eat our meals together and sleep together. Minor bumps along the way but nothing we couldn’t communicate about and work through. Recently they seem to get along better now but for the 2-3 years they did not . In our bed. But I’ve realized over the last year that I’m just not in love with him anymore. He is my soft place to fall and someone I can always count on. My husband has been my absolute rock. I've been in and out of therapy. I love my husband to death, but we have a different relationship. Whenever my husband and I would have an argument, I would vent to her. He and his husband eloped as well about six or seven years ago and I was so happy for them after I found out. She is the sister I never had, my best friend, my platonic soulmate. 1) My friend and I were changing in my bedroom, I look down and notice my husband (boyfriend at the time), was pushing a hand held mirror under the door to watch us undress. My ex’s before my husband weren’t best friends so I have a comparison to go by. I wrote letters and poetry constantly. The last 3 days my partner held me me while I sobbed, told me how amazing I am, reassured me that I’m loved and cared for. He’s arrogant, he belittles people, he is rude to my husband and makes fun of him constantly. Yeah, um, I tell most of my friends I love them at times, both when talking or in writing. I hope I provide a similar validation and different perspective that benefits him as well. Cyan was the cousin of a hs friend so I was thrilled to know someone. My husband and I still had him My husband who I’ve been married to for a decade lied about literally almost everything I’ve asked him about these last few months. My friend (we’ll call her Lilly) and I met about a year ago at a local program we both take our children to. That’s a different issue. Being your significant other’s best friend is awesome. My boyfriend and I think we are each other’s best friends. In June, my husband was very insistent that she leaves ASAP but wouldn’t tell me why. Let me explain. This other friend is the one who told me. He asks me if I need any help around the house or even to watch his godson, so I am able to get something done without worrying. So thank you community for the encouragement and advice. This is long, buckle up. They're good friends too so she would always be there to help us both if needed. my wife’s WFH. Not suicide, he failed to recover from heart surgery. I have no intention of talking to my ex best friend or really to my soon to be ex husband until I have had the time to grieve. Her saying best friend instead of “I love you?” I can’t quite analyze that without hearing the subtle tone in her voice when she said it. I don’t know what to do. I left and filed for divorce and my husband has been adamant about getting me back. And when me and DH were still dating, sometimes we hung out with 3, but BFF was the first to suggest giving us alone time sometimes. Me and my husband have been together for 5 years and married for 1 year. Since I’m not single I do spend a majority of the weekends with my boyfriend, and when I do hang out with my friend he wants to come along and I My (35F) best friend (35M) was cheated on by his wife (34F)who was also my good friend. But I feel like my husband, besides my mom, is the only person that I can really be myself with and trust. My husband doesn’t react when I cry and when I talk to him about how I feel he sighs and stares straight ahead. You are bad ass. Daisy has been a true friend since we I would’ve never expected this for my husband, she was caring, kind and so loving towards my children (16f,13f,6m). Still miss her like crazy. We go out for beers just the 2 of us. I love her to pieces, but introducing her to my boyfriend feels like one of the worst decisions of my life. It's something much, much more than that. Friendship is friendship. So two years ago my friend came to stay with us. My son's real father lives 2 hours away from my house, and I am afraid if my husband finds out. Also my husband and I lost a close friend the day before my birthday this year. we've always had an amazingly close friendship. I really needed to tell someone or else I feel I might explode. He is 32 and my husband is 26. My husband didn't want to reveal it to our friends yet, and so I didn't. She gave me a lot of details including the places they slept together, how often it happened, when it started, etc. Recently, I began planning a surprise party for my husband's birthday and I figured I would reach out to his friends about planning to see if they wanted to help. Went thru school years with only 1 friend, so best buddy. " My brain is VERY good at searching for the worst case scenario and pre-planning how to avoid it. ' That's a normal part of being a partner/farther and that role is so much deeper and bigger than that. I no longer have my best friend to lean on. My husband and I have been married for 17 years and things have been pretty good. She’s back in town riding out the pandemic since it hasn’t really hit where we are. when i talk to my guy friends about why i stayed in an abusive relationship for so long its always "she gave the best head" or "the sex was amazing" but my female friends get the truth about how she found me at my lowest point and helped me get passed it and used that time to manipulate me into thinking that i needed her and that i couldn't leave. The girl getting married had called Charlie a snake to Debbie in casual conversation - they are not friends and Charlie is generally a good person, imo, so that is not a red flag to me. So this friend, let’s call him Steve and his wife Mary, met my husband Mike in college and became fast friends. Once she was gone, I blew up on my husband. It was the first one in a long time I wanted to celebrate because I’ve been depressed for a long time. I am 26F, my fiancé is 23M and his best friend is 22F. My kids are grown and we’re well adjusted. He wants her to be his best “man. Names have been changed. Hope I can heal and move on from this. During the wedding I noticed my best friend (f24) and husband were missing half way through our reception. But, I also love cooking, reading, crafting and he does not. I will sever my friendship with Gina. I didn't even have to ask him, he just said "go love, your mother needs you". My current husband is visiting his family back home and I’m so afraid if he hears this. What’s so challenging is that James is my husband’s best friend and one of the only friends he has locally. Adam is married with a wife of his own who I am friends with. My husband and his friend are two completely different men. That makes it 10+ years of one-sided love from her to him and 12 years of my one-sided love to her. So for awhile my best friend did NOT like my bf and he did NOT like her. My best friend Cindy and her husband Mike are going through a nasty divorce and it has caused a serious When his best friend (let’s call him Clark), comes over to visit again my husband is on his phone (and yes, he ONLY comes over when my husband is here. But in conversation I refer to the guy who’s been there for me since high school as my “best friend”. Maybe you are her best friend. She is not a good communicator. My husband put his friend on speakerphone and his friend said he was coming over soon so they could take the dogs on a walk. She sat behind us. My coworker now has a place of her own for her and the kids, and considering the I have a friend like this. My best friend has never been anything but happy for our relationship. Talk to her constantly when we aren't together. I constantly tell my fiancé he’s my best friend, and he knows it. What he did did not only inappropriate, but was disrespectful to my boundaries. My husband has female friends. I'm also married. My husband never told me about my friend's confession. So this guy and his ex are BOTH in relationships with other people, yet they are best friends to each other and NOT their BF/GF? If you're not your SO's best friend, you need to rethink this relationship. Originally posted to r/relationship_advice. He’s been so loving and attentive to both my kids and I. My husband read the post and was thankful that I wasn’t dealing with this situation by myself. We are What can you do if you and your husband aren't friends anymore? Learn how to rebuild that connection and become friends again. We are all 31. My husband never knew about this and nowadays I can see how much he loves my son, but he will never be the real father. No biggie, we're close. I don’t allow myself to wallow. Yeah she is definitely my best friend. I had never dated anyone in highschool, and she joked saying that she was “happy that I wasn’t going to become a crazy cat lady after all”. She ended up moving out in July to stay with another one of our friends. 25 years ago, One of my best friends future ex fiancé/wife Tricked me into trying to sleep with her by saying that they had broken up. He has definitely taken the in sickness and in health vow seriously. JJ and I have been best friends since we were 14. They went to counseling and he helps more now and she’s happy. Some backstory: my wife and I moved for my new job. Her & I quickly became friends and I considered her one of my closest friends. ” We don’t live together yet because I am stuck in my lease. I found it somewhat reassuring when both of them mentioned that they didn’t see how I could have ever been happy married to their mother. My kids were 9 and 11 when I cut the cord on my marriage due to the same situation. My boyfriend is my best friend and I would much rather spend my time with him as our conversations are more genuine and easy compared to some of my friends and he also pretty much knows everything that’s going on in my life and he’s definitely the person first I want to go to about anything whether it’s big or a little bit of gossip ;) It YTA. None were "best friends". They still slept together for months before that. Family tells me we need to work through this. Lucky to have him, so give him some internet love. My husband (30M) cheated on me with a girl (30F) that was supposed to be my best friend. I no longer have my husband, my friend to lean on either. My I've posted often about my struggle to move on. Maybe she broke my trust that much I just can’t let anyone else in. Yeah, like the male work friend I get along best with, I'm constantly showing our texts to my husband because it's almost purely memes and pictures of our reptiles (we all love them). I hate him and love him at the same time but I don't have any one anymore. Best part was that they hated each other while we were married. And I think we are totally good with that and have a solid relationship in spite of it. 10 years ago I met this woman at work and she became one of my best friends. These are the posts which really get under my skin, as I had a “best friend” sleep with my girlfriend at a party before and no one elected to tell me about it until much later. It hurts. Husbands ex best friend tells me that she is seeing someone new, but her karma will come for her. Mine tried to date my ex-best friend and she turned him down for another guy. I hadn't seen her in around a year, so it was exciting once we rekindled things. My best friend has been married to her husband since they were in their early 20's. My husband and I have only been married for 2. We connected right away. I in no way want him to choose between us. We both love playing the stock market, camping, playing card/board games, traveling, bowling and a few others. Throughout highschool we were always stuck together. So yeah, if I feel love for my friends, I’ll tell them. After my best friend died, I wrote constantly. Kristy was married but slept with Pete a couple times. We have two kids. My so-called best friend has been bragging about kissing my husband and claims they did other stuff. We can laugh together, be serious together, make fun of eachother, cry together, vent to eachother, everything! He is such an amazing man, and I cannot wait to someday marry him and be his wife. She was introduced to me only because she was my husbands best friends girlfriend. It's just girlcode. I know what I did was a bad thing, but I can't tell my husband under any circumstances. As nice as the sentiment "my spouse is my best friend" is, seeing your spouse as just your best friend is dangerous territory. We spend less “girl time” together now. He is still my best friend and that is not a teenage idyllic fantasy. Here’s what the research tells us about friendship My husband isn’t my best friend and that’s ok. Hey guys, my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend twice and I just found out about it. I place a partner/father way above a best friend/babysitter so I'm not going to downgrade him by calling him my best friend. Ddin't sit around and watch TV together or cook meals together. Many times we have had arguments about this. During those years I just kept them apart from one another. He is my partner in life. My parents called me, (in South Africa), and they asked me if I could come to Germany, where my parents live, for two months and help my mom. My husband is not my best friend. I had male best friends all my life Mainly because of my hobbies etc. Best husband ever I don't have many friends, never really worked out. Women should stick together and NEVER go after their friends' spouses, boyfriends, ex-husbands or ex-boyfriends. My ex husband is still my best friend and if he ever needs anything from me I will be there for him. 5 years. She is chronically couch surfing and has been doing so her entire adult life. Don’t get me wrong, I am a mother first always. I did not want to be a part of the drama, so I just told him I would meet him later. We are My husband is bipolar and that statistic always scares the shit out of me. She and my husband get along well, and I know they talk when I’m not around. I can't imagine opening up to anyone other than him the way I have. I think it’s a good thing. My husband laughs that one of my best guy friends has been so beneficial when It all happened in 5 weeks and she was so young. Its just really hard. I would never do that. We both wfh and see each other everyday 24/7 . Don’t close yourself of thinking that women will never be there emotionally for their men. To make matters worse, we have six children together, our oldest being 33, who is married and has two kids of his own. But not to take him back, but to keep peace for our kids. I can talk to him about anything. You should always make time for each other and be best friends first! My husband and I will be celebrating ten years together in November and the best advice I have received came from someone I work for who has been happily married over 35 years, she once told me to 'make sure you're both on the same page. I figured he just didn’t like her After he had gone to work for the afternoon I asked my now ex best friends mom and my MIL to meet me at my dads house. It was a hard time and my best friend and I I met my husband in high school and we became best friends really fast. 2) He flashed his penis, as he was peeing outdoors, to the same friend as above. My husband isn’t my best friend and that’s ok. It causes sooo much more pain because not only are we betrayed by our spouse or bf, we also are betrayed by a friend. however ,my husband is the only one I found attractive as well. But he is the best husband for me. We're in our late 20s now. But at any work functions, my husband is always making a I fucking hate my best friend. One no longer speaks with me and the other keeps trying to say she's my friend and she wants to protect me. This has become one of my favorite elements of having a close/ best friend of the opposite sex. That is the key I found out a while ago that my husband had cheated on me with my best friends. I can't lose him, not now She is like a sister to me. My health declined severely, and he and my child (2nd marriage for both of us) take very I see that as a linguistic issue, not a relationship issue. Everyone is always joking around that we're gonna be married someday or just assume we are a couple. ) Clark asks me how I am and how I am feeling that. Today is my 26th birthday, but now all it is to me is the one week anniversary of her death and a reminder that I am officially an age that my best friend will never be as her birthday was in a month. I am 40F, my husband is 37M. Last year she came over for a visit (we no longer live in the same country but visit each other often) and when I woke up she was next to me and my husband was not. TRIGGER WARNING: physical violence, sexism, misogyny and intimidation Original Post July 18, 2023. A lot. He was shy and introverted and lacked self esteem due to his weight. They conspired and lied to have me removed from my home and my kids, false allegations. I never asked if I was his best man or who he was planning to ask, I know he would ask or tell when he felt was the right time and when he made the right decision. And to be clear, I don't just mean he has other roles than a best friend, he's also my lover etc. My spouse has zero issues with that. My friend knows my relationship is always my priority but that he’s my closest friend otherwise. I'm working on myself. I was going to get us coffee and help her with a few things around her house before she left for a business trip Monday. We were definitely not best friends. For me, and my sanity. Enter my husband's best friend Adam (29M). I’m trying, there’s sadly alot going on and I wish it was this simple as me and Reddit saying I’m not a shitty person to make feel like less like a shitty person but Things are rough right now and emotionally I’m not in the best place sadly My best friend is my husband, I My best friend, Kristy, met my husband, Pete, about ten years ago. Still does. Im not sure what to do or which way is up and down. My current fiance understands this and is the same with his ex. My husband and I have been best friends for 20 years, together for 16, and married for 13. More specifically, I wrote letters to him. Our friendship is the entire foundation of our She has been there for me during my struggles with drug addiction, and has always been a listening ear whenever my husband and I faced challenges in our relationship. It's been 10 years since we got married, and she still loves him. My best friend sleepwalks occasionally. He had found out through mutual friends who heard from my best friend my reason why I had left. Even my family think that he acts like an old cranky man. I agree with the others that it sounds like your friend Maria is trying to break up your marriage because your husband wasn’t willing to fully cheat on you or wasn’t willing to lose his sense of self-control when they were both drunk. At first I thought they must have been outside for a smoke break. My (29M) wife (30F) and my best friend Cyan (25M) do not see eye to eye. The problem is that Emily and my husband had been friends for 7 years having met at work. So my (33F) husband (32) hates my best friend (33F). You deserve better! Good job sticking up for you!! Also, the whole ex bff brother liking you - don’t girl. He lives where my husband used to before the military and we are not going to move back there. Her husband became my husband’s best friend. This man is probably one of the kindest, sweetest men I ever met. We just don't go there. We had been having sexual problems because I was, and still am, massively depressed and have anxiety. We settle in for the night. I think it is perfectly healthy not to be “best friends” with your spouse as CMV: If your significant other isn't your best friend, you are in the wrong relationship. I don’t know if you’re one to have tattoos, but I also did get a tattoo of my best friend’s motorcycle prominently displayed on Please don't say "well if you loved him divorce wouldn't even cross your mind. I think a lot of us started out being best friends with our spouses before the relationship turned, romantic, which is why for a lot of us our spouse and our best friend is the same person. My husband said that while he would normally be happy to help, he didn't have enough advance notice and wouldn't be able to this time. When we lived together she'd end up coming into my room and getting into bed with me probably every other month or so. He had always been overweight, cannot remember a time when he was of a healthy weight. I have a gym buddy, and he’s about the only person I talk to that’s not my wife or kids. Now this isn't the first time I've "hated" my friend. I did not want to believe it, even though I caught him at her house the next day I still believed them. The hardest part is the shame when you don't know something, especially as a man if he was in a more traditional household, he may not know it's okay to not know - at least that was the Let me clarify: I'm not saying to not have friends or even close friends. Two best friends, my sister, coworkers My best friend said that after the baby was born her husband would still go to the gym and invite people over and act like the baby never came. I was scrolling through Reddit and saw a post here yesterday about a husband who had sex with his wife's best friend. But Im so hurt. I'm just so lost and confused. I have been married to my husband for nearly 3 years and I have a baby. Ever since, when she has an issue with her dad, she calls my husband and vents. Thanks, Internet! Also, shout out to my husband for literally handling this in the most amazing way. until now. Here’s a tip for the OP, maybe don’t post your creative writing exercise on Reddit and not expect feedback. He didn't even show up to be his best man at our wedding with no real excuse. My husband cheated on me with my best friend This is a throwaway account. We love them like the family they are and not lovers or anything in intimate, Her and her husband actually. This must not be all that uncommon. i feel this so much. We share the same friend circle so I will tell you guys instead. He has been my best friend ever since my relationship with him My husband has friends I'm not crazy about, but I would never try to stip him having a relationship with them, or refuse to entertain them. TL;DR - Husband’s best friend turned out to be a crazed Nice Guy who was arrested for I wouldn't call my partner my "best friend," because we have a romantic and sexual relationship that far exceeds and is also different than friendship. Hope your life is wonderful. I still haven’t met anyone else like her or that I connected with. Should I forgive him? My husband and I met 16 years ago in grad school and we have been married for 12. Adam has been my husband's friend for about 10 years now. Alice and I made plans to get together on Saturday morning. They often say a relationship with a spouse is different from a friendship with a best friend. He confessed his feelings for me soon after and when I said I wasn’t emotionally available for a relationship he want all nice guy and proceeded to never pay me for the truck I had signed over in good faith that he would be paying me for. I wish only the worst for her. I’m really good at socializing, I justdon’t want to. Certainly not my shining moment but also a culmination of all the hurt and anger over the last few weeks that they have caused. My husband was the same, especially around cooking. Chris asked if my husband could help him cram for a math final that was happening the following day (my husband is an engineer and used to tutor math and Chris is working on his associates degree). Not having my best friend to send pictures of indecipherable license plates or forward reddit posts to or call and say 'want to get some beer and explore the new construction site on campus tonight' is the part that prevents me from fully 'getting over' it. I've had many guy friends, even ones I TLDR: TIFU by telling my husband all the fucked up shit his best friend/surrogate brother has done to his girlfriend and I've probably ruined their relationship at a time when my husband really needs support. I think there are some exceptions to this but i also think it also requires a certain balance. We are not opposed to having children). Best Friend is single. We share a lot and i feel so awful for resenting them. My sister is perpetually unhappy. I also knew her and had spent a fair bit of time with her over the years, but she was my husband's friend first and foremost, his 'work wife'. My kids are still loved, cared for, played with, and I haven’t let my load slack around the My coworker is going through a nasty divorce rn, which started bc the stb ex husband ran away to another country and got a girlfriend there. My husband's best friend is a woman that he's known a good decade longer than me. I felt that situation, because when I left my POS ex with my 5 month old daughter a guy friend literally moved back to my town hoping I’d give him a chance. However, my best friend is my best friend. When my best friend and her now husband first started dating, we both liked him. 5 years, but he is my favorite human and my best friend and I really get disheartened sometimes listening to so many middle aged and older people refer to their spouses in such an unflattering way. When we have issues, I don't run to my female friends because they don't need to know about our issues and as my husband says, they never forget the bad things you tell them which is so true! So six months ago I found out from my husband that he had an affair with my best friend. I try not to judge them for having an affair because Kristy's husband was a controlling, abusive piece of shit and Pete was just a stupid 19-year-old kid but it's not my favorite aspect of either of them. A spouse is a different relationship for me from a best friend. We even have “girls night” often, spending the night at her house or one of are other friends homes. I lived with them as well. Happy for you OP. When I did have a "best friend" it usually was only for awhile, or for what I call that session of life. He calls and text and tells me he loves me. He's my favorite person and being with him feels like being home and every time we're together we have the best time ever. I can't trust him with my friends, some of my family, his friends, co-workers, strangers, etc, etc, etc. Here are 16 tips to help you do just that. I see her every day, spend all my time with her. My husband is my best friend in the world. He kissed me that night, and we ended up together for 9 months, that time. I love her to death, and we tell each other every single thing. To say that people who count their spouse as their closest friend are somehow deluding themselves is a foolish statement on your part. zbglcvk rsgij jtv rjjjyul kezdlc bwjdyk soenpw biznq kzodzs vfegnyj